Bucktail, most sincere condolences.
You see those traits in your Dad because he has passed them along to you. You have those strengths, you just need to recognise them.
I lost Dad almost exactly a year ago and Mom about 2 1/2 years ago. Both struggled a long time with advanced lung disease, bravely to the end.
If I can be of any help, even a coffee and a chat, PM me or call me at any time 905-333-0231
John & Barbara