Well Pete, I'm glad you took a very important first step in stepping back and taking a breath. The first time you discuss the issue with your son will be the most important and will definitly set the direction from there on out. Good to see you thinking this thing through. The subjet of sexuality can be a personal one and one that is very sensitive, and sometimes very private, to those involved. It's so easy to get off on the wrong foot and very tough to get back on track. A sit down conversion, one on one, would be a good start. Maybe this would be more comfortable to him. It may be that you are both apprehensive about discussing the matter and a good way to break the ice. Even if you don't approve of his lifestyle, be understanding and don't condemn him for it. As the discussion goes on, you will be able to fit in your desires while in your home in a positive way. I think Lew said it very well. Best of luck my friend.