Don't want to tell you how to raise your daughter, but you had better love her like crazy as well as being tough with her.
Read once that girls have a theoretical "love tank" that can only be filled with male affection. It's the Dad's job to keep it filled till they grow up. Hugs. Compliments. Monthly date night, etc. If Dad's not filling it, they will find male affection elsewhere. At 14 that just leads to trouble.
Just sayin.
It's a tricky balance.
Too tight- no good. They rebel.
Too loose- no good either.
Glad I'm done with 4 kids.
3 grandkids now ?