Nothing that I could say will help as I have raised 3 sons(thank god)...but I did raise them with a firm hand and strong moral values and they understood my house my rules, they felt like they were hard done by at the time but they got over it and grew up to be well adjusted adults who love meat and fishing and eat the odd fish!!!
I do understand well perhaps I don`t that kids nowadays seem to have some sort of control over their parents and do what ever they please....who is the parent?