I remember reading an account of Saint Pio (Catholic Priest) I think....as far as I can recall, an individual asked him to find out from God why he was born blind and the priest said this, "You are blind becuase God knows that this is the only way you will get to heaven". The man's courage returned and left his future in the hands of God. Whatever happens to us in the end be assured that God does care...........he sees the whole picture and knows what is best....trust him even when its very hard to do so. God bless you and your family....